my confession is this My elder sister wants to get married to this guy she loves. He is absolutely lovely. He is nice, hardworking, intelligent, sweet, mature, understanding, very dedicated to her and loves her very much. Everybody in our family likes (maybe almost loves) him. Except for my father... The real reason why he is against it is probably because he believes my sister will stop helping us economically when she gets married. Which she won't. But even if she did, nobody would blame her. She has always worked hard, achieved things on her own and helped us. It's her right to be happy and build her life. She is not old, but she is not young neither (she is 25). Father pretends to have other worries (very irrelevant) and makes up excuses why he is against. He says he wants her to finish her phd (which would take another 4 years for her). He says he needs to discuss it with our uncles and aunts, his uncles and aunts, our cousins, his cousins - basically the whole town! The only reason why I haven't told him to fuck off and let my sister be happy is that I have a loving (angel) mother, a younger sister and two younger brothers and they still need him economically. And as for me, I'm quite useless for the moment and I hate myself about that. Sometimes I imagine I kill him. It's not the first time he ruins our happiness. He has done my mother's life so miserable. He has done her so miserable. He made us miserable too. He's been like a dark shadow all these years and ruins everything. He doesn't love us one bit. He only thinks of himself. Men like him should be castrated! Maybe one day I will really kill him. And nobody will understand why.