I don't understand men who say "oh I hate passive agressive women or people" what are they after ? completely passive or assertive agressive? what? because when you have faced violent active direct agressive violent people like I had a uncle who was constantly threatening to bash me or my dad or someone in the family or his neighbors, he had this little old lady so terrified next door to him and he was this big bulk of a man giant with no class. he was very intimidating, then I met women also like that and I noticed some men really liked it. this voilent style uncoathe women? I don't understand it. so I spent all my teens and twenties with this violent wife basher threatening and sexually groping at me and assaulting me. then to meet other violent women and being abused. I can't see what men see in women who bash other women for their love and sex and attentions. I don't even know how these women manage to get people to help them. probably out of fear. I never reported my uncle asssaulting me out of fear. so that is a big motivator. how can men like bully bitches who are violent. they look for what they get.