the only diffenece between me and virgina is I didn't feel as sorry for myself with all my illnesses and abuses like she did, oh, and she had a degree, had been married 1 or 2 times and had kids and worked in a few countries - none of which I ever had, but she used to give me rude looks and insults and made me feel like I was a bad person wanting anything in the ego realm like marriage or work or graduating at university or working overseas, all of which she had done but she was always "sadsack poor - rich spoilt married 2 times bugger me" things she made clear I couldn't aspire to but all the same she wanted me to pity her with her life of prestege wealth and marriage and kids and travel and friends and work and she would put me down. that was just abuse, some one told me all she was doing was abusing me. I never did understand the hurt she was putting one me. she had me wrong as a person and I felt bullied by them. she thought she was right with all her spastic ideas and she had no idea at all what she was about but she knew she was harming me and she was so old and selfish she didn't care. i hate old people they are selfish mongrel bastards.