Don't get me wrong. I absolutely love my best friend. She's the one I go to for everything. But her boyfriend has recently broken up with her and it's all she talks about. She always says, "I love him, we should be together," or something of the sort. We're in middle school and I honestly think that "love" may be a strong word. I have confronted her about it, and she acts like she understands, but I also get this vibe that she thinks that I don't "understand" seeing that I've never been in a relationship. Of course I understand her viewpoint, because how could I understand something that has never happened to me? On the other hand, I have strong boundaries when it comes to relationships. For example, I do believe that saying that you "love" someone when you're only in middle school is a bit extreme. I say this because it's where a person is most likely to have their first serious relationship, so how can you know it's love? So my question is, am I wrong? Because I haven't really ever had a relationship, am I wrong to be giving her advice and contradicting her words? Also, am I wrong to still be really good friends with her ex? He is one of my best friends and I don't think I can just stop talking to him because I've told him many secrets and I feel as if I can tell him anything. I don't want to lose that, but at the same time I don't want to lose my first best friend. I am so confused, somebody please help.

Don't get me wrong. I absolutely love my best friend. She's the one I go to for everything. But her boyfriend has recently broken up with her and it's all she talks about. She always says, "I love him, we should be together," or something of the sort. We're in middle school and I honestly think that "love" may be a strong word. I have confronted her about it, and she acts like she understands, but I also get this vibe that she thinks that I don't "understand" seeing that I've never been in a relationship. Of course I understand her viewpoint, because how could I understand something that has never happened to me? On the other hand, I have strong boundaries when it comes to relationships. For example, I do believe that saying that you "love" someone when you're only in middle school is a bit extreme. I say this because it's where a person is most likely to have their first serious relationship, so how can you know it's love? So my question is, am I wrong? Because I haven't really ever had a relationship, am I wrong to be giving her advice and contradicting her words? Also, am I wrong to still be really good friends with her ex? He is one of my best friends and I don't think I can just stop talking to him because I've told him many secrets and I feel as if I can tell him anything. I don't want to lose that, but at the same time I don't want to lose my first best friend. I am so confused, somebody please help.
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