my lecturer who is a doctor is really happy with my course work this year and she told me I should be proud of myself but its hard to. I past all the case management and stream units in sociology care for gerontology and aged care, dsm mental illnesses stream and problem children and child protection services and foster children and I added some human resources units for job recruitment case management and general management and leadership. Because case management covers so much its specialized area but its not university so its hard for me to feel proud. I got 100 % passes for most units just like I did for dental courses and laser skin treatments and Justice units. I want to go back to university but too afraid to. I am burnt out and my support lady said I need to take a little rest but I got a more then a bucket load to complete yet. I hate giving up on a course. I past educational psychology unit and geonome and genetics again and I pasted the foresics in accounting and also in IT with a shit load of IT units I never thought I would do and I past making apps and I still don't know how to freaking make them. so sad. just learn to pass course exams sometimes. I admit that. I did that at uni too. you have to to budget you time. I pasted international law units and its because some of these are via a college not university I feel like "what does it really mean to anyone, it only means something to me", like last year passing microbiology and lab analysis and diploma of health science. you can't use them anywhere. its like what does it matter. I am so tired and I got a lot to get through yet. I need a part time job too.

I cancelled on our first date because I had too much homework that weekend. But our first date was at a Thai restaurant - dinner lasted 2 hours with how well we hit it off. Followed by ice cream... and then Netflix at my place. We spent about 6 hours together that night. I had to kick him out because I'd completely forgotten my cousin was on her way to visit me. He came to my recital and met half of my extended family - just over a month after we started dating. He took me to my first [only] Cubs game. He came to my graduation. We talked about how I'd graduate to an unpredictable future - that I could end up anywhere in just a few months, whereas he'd still be there for grad school for the next 2 years. We talked about how neither of us wanted to do long distance. And we stayed on the surface because of it. We never discussed much of our pasts or the future and spent most of our time concerned with the "here and now" - the day-to-day, "how was work/school?" Normally I hate the everyday chitchat. But somehow it worked with him. As much as I would've loved getting into the nitty-gritty, heavy stuff from our pasts, opened up on a deeper level, I knew it was in our best interests not to delve until or unless I found a job in the area, that there might be a future. And I sensed he wasn't as comfortable being open about it as I was. I don't consider myself perceptive, but for once I got the hint. The day I got hired was the day we stopped dating because it meant that I was moving three hours away. He told me over drinks, months later, that if he hadn't been tied there for grad school, he would've moved - "in a heartbeat." And I love and hate that he told me. My mom still asks whether I think we'd still be dating if I hadn't moved. I can't play what ifs because I know the answer, and it stings. My life is great. I have a great job, coworkers, and a boss I get along with. I'm happy exploring my new city by myself or with my roommate or the friends I made at the bar. I'm blessed; I'm happy. But he's the best relationship I've ever had. Every time I think about the fact that bringing him to my family Thanksgiving is just a fantasy, I cry. I don't have to be miserable to miss him, and my life doesn't have to suck for me to know it'd be better with him in it.

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I am a survivor of physically, emotionally and psychologically abusive parents. There are very few people who know me that are aware of this fact, and even they don't know everything. So, in order to practice telling the whole truth to them and someone else, here I am on an anonymous confession site. This is my story. My parents were not always the complete monsters that they ended up evolving into. From my earliest memories up until I was about 5 years old, I remember us being a more or less "normal" family. My mother was always rough with me, more so than I remember other mothers being, but my father was actually very nice from what I remember, although he was always a doormat for my mother. To this day I still don't the reason for it, but shortly before I turned six we moved house. It was smaller than our old one and in the middle of nowhere. Shortly after the move, my mother, who was already a rigid, demanding, impatient, cold bitch, became even more sadistic, twisted and started chain smoking. She went from just being rough with me to full on whacking me, sometimes I think it was just for fun. My father, the doormat that he was, was afraid to say anything to her. As I got older, it only got worse. I was eight years old. I was playing with one of the few other kids my age that lived near us and ended up getting some mud on my dress. When I got home, I showed my mother and apologized, but she slapped me across the face, told me to take it off and proceeded to punish me by putting out her cigarette on my back. That became the normal punishment for "doing something bad" thereafter. My back and soon stomach and upper thighs slowly became riddled with burn scars over the course of two years. My mother would dress me in such a way that they wouldn't be visible, and she convinced me that it was a normal thing that mothers did. To this day I can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke or getting burned. As this was happening, my father, I think because he was getting sick of being so afraid of his wife, began drinking heavily. With his drunk courage, he got into fights nearly every night with my mother. They would sometimes get violent with both of them striking each other. One night, my mother, instead of keeping him away from me, diverted his attention to me. He came up to me, grabbed me firmly by the hand, led me to the kitchen and grabbed a pen knife. He told me we were going to play "connect the dots". He took me to the living room, took off my shirt and held me down. I kicked and screamed and flailed and begged him to stop, but he just told me that "this is a game that kids play with their daddies, honey." He made shallow cuts along my skin with the knife until they connected burn scars as I bawled my eyes out and screamed in pain for him to stop. I was 10. He did this periodically for about the next 8 months, until he made sure every single scar was connected with a new one from the knife. There was then a "quiet" period of about a year and a half where they just fought and the worst I'd get was a slap to the face or a push to the ground. One night, I couldn't take it anymore, and I yelled at them to stop fighting. They did. They then looked at me and told me to mind my business and know my place, among other things. I was pushed down to the ground, and they started to kick me lightly with their feet as I shielded my head. Then they kicked harder. And harder. And harder. They kicked me, and kicked me, and kicked me, and kicked me, all the while yelling all kinds of obscenities at me. At some point they stopped, but I didn't even try to get up. They went right back to fighting, as if nothing had happened, leaving me sobbing in pain on the floor. When I had to go to school the next morning, my mother covered up the majority of the bruises with either clothing or makeup and told me to tell anyone that asked that I fell down the basement stairs taking down laundry. She told me people would understand because this was normal. I asked why I never saw any other kids with bruises, but she slapped me and told me to "Shut up. Shut the fuck up. You think you know better than me? You think you're smarter than me? You're just a child. Listen to your mother. It’s normal." After I had the audacity to call them out that night, my father began to occasionally target me on his drunken rampages again. This time, he'd whip me with his belt, often with the metal part, on my bare back. He would "encourage me" the whole time. "You're doing great, honey! Only two more! You're being such a good girl, not screaming anymore! Next time I’ll only do 5!" That would happen about twice or three times a month for about three years. My mother would watch, and I swear she enjoyed it. The smell of alcohol makes me absolutely sick now; cutting meat with a knife or watching it being cut is something that takes courage, hearing the phrase "connect the dots" is a huge stressor, and the sound of a belt snapping or things hitting me on my back set me off sometimes. I had one very good friend. Over the years we had gotten so close that we were practically sisters, and her parents practically considered me a second daughter. It was their family that kept me grounded and knowing that my life was not normal. I should've told them about my abuse, but I was so scared of my parents. It ended up being very lucky that I was so close to them, though, because one day, my father's alcoholism caught up with him. He was driving drunk with my mother, probably fighting with her. One of them probably hit the other, and they drove off the road and into a telephone pole. My father died instantly and my mother died at the hospital 7 hours later. After hearing the news I was shocked but didn't shed a single tear. Emotion had been beaten out of me already. I had no family who could take me in. Both of my parents were apparently only children, and both sets of grandparents had been dead for years. Instead of having to go into a foster care system, however, my friend's family took me in. I can't ever thank them enough for that kindness. Despite my best efforts to hide them, my friend eventually saw my scars and made me explain how I got them. I told her and her family part of this story nonchalantly, thinking nothing of it, and they cried, told me how terrible it must've been, consoled me and hugged me. I broke down. I’d never been allowed to cry without repercussion before. It felt so good. Despite my abuse and the PTSD I developed, I was able to finish strong in high school and get a college education. I met my current fiancé in college. We're getting married soon. I've been so self-conscious about my scars and past that I've hid all this from him unfairly. I'm planning on telling/showing him before the wedding, as to not wait until our wedding night for him to finally find out, so this is my practice putting it all into words. I'm going to break down, I know I am, but I think it's best to finally come clean. This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I shouldn't keep such a secret from him. Plus, I know some of my reactions to seemingly random things confuse the shit out of him, so I know he'll be happy to know I'm not (totally) crazy. Holy fucking shit, I can't believe I actually just typed it all out. It was an emotional roller coaster, but it feels good at the same time.

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