i have never said the big pic is good or bad since realization is couldnt be changed for a variety realistic and personal belifs. we can only do what we believe the right thing to do in the moment and hope things work out. figuring the right thing to do is the big issue and right for whom. everything we thing do and say has an effect on others and often unintended, misconscrewed and just plane wrong. some stuff is just wrong and some stuff aint funny. with that in mind i live my life. it's really all u can do.