for whatever it is worth even my uncle ron who bashed his wife and molested me and was annoying me sexually at my sisters wedding I cried when he died cuz I had known him for so long. I could see he was abused and I guess I felt like "oh well guess a ugly dog like me has to be grateful for a old fat violent bastard to notice god knows there are so many queens here in the men in this state not one of the queen poofter young men I went to university would notice me"??? confused????