I don't know I think even adults struggle knowing where you fit in when your bullied and pushed around everywhere and don't have employment and good healthy relationships. I became more confused when I got to 35 not married not having kids or job and questioning why did I bother going to university, why can't I get ahead? worse than when I was a teen. if you're not working and not a mother by 35 in the awful country Australia I live you're a nobody that a lot of doctors won't treat properly and with respect and with dignity, you don't get the same access to legal rights or medical access as other people and special "mother" treatments and treated like you know anything. unless you have given birth here you know nothing and are good for nothing! a lot of single mothers and obvious disability people with server disability don't know their boundaries and limitations here they are not taught enough "sit down and mind your own business and shut up" it really makes you feel hurt, weird and like you must be extra stupid when deformed intellectually disabled people want to give you advice as if you have never had a thought of your own. I was at university I don't know about kelly if she did or didn't but did she ever stop to think I had tried that and already thought of that. I am clever enough to know I don't know it all. but intellectually disabled don't.