i need to confess and say that i don't apparently ring my wife's bell anymore. i pulled out all of the stops and booked a long weekend getaway for memorial day weekend in a secluded cabin so we could unwind with no stress or worries about the kids, jobs or other obligations. when we arrived earlier today, she told me straight up that she wasn't in the mood for any intimacy this weekend. she hasn't been in the mood for months now and when we did get intimate a couple of months ago she just laid there motionless and expressionless. she refers to it as "gettting your business taken care of." i wish it were "our business." i've even gotten suspicious that there may be someone else but either she's very good at hiding all traces of an affair or she has just lost all interest in me. i miss her emotionally as well as physically.