i refuse to forgive a lot of people and my parents support me on this. its a myth that you have to forgive others for yourself to move on. its a lie we are told to pass on bullshit. my parents just said to me "you don't have to forgive one person who abused you and why should you be the one in deficit while they are all glorious, i didn't bring you into the world to left cheated". then everything just suddenly felt better when they said that to me.