I have a un-natural fear of men in situations that I can't explain and I just didn't trust him straight away I was imagining him making me dig my grave and try to kill me when he said "I will surprise you" I text back and said no don't I don't think my heart and health could handle the stress of it." and I just couldn't go I rang a friend and she said no, don't trust him he is wrong for you so I didn't bother. I am square and more worried about my health then sexually impressing a man.